"Hortensio, though her father be very rich, any man is so very a fool to be married to hell?" Taming of the Shrew When it comes to our obsessive tendency to assign blame when things in the world go haywire, doesn't it seem like men always get the shaft? Are we too soft toward women? Should we place some of the responsibility of our problems at the feet of the femme fatales of the world - - those evil women who seduce poor naive saps and lead them to their destruction and the rest of the world with it? (Proverbs 5:1-5) 2 weeks ago, I wrote a blog that received a number of comments. One of which seemed to think I was harping on men while giving women of the world a pass. As I looked back on what I wrote, I think the comments were accurate. I did only point out the selfish behavior of the men of our society while letting women off the hook. I did paint men as irresponsible adolescents. Silly little boys not willing to grow up: Fools, fops, nitwits and buffoons. And you know what...I will not retract my writings. Men are to blame. Men are the problem. Men are the fools. And since I am a male, I also am included in this indictment. Oh, I know, some of you men out there vehemently disagree - - you are up in arms when every television show paints the dad as the dummy, or the straight guy as the loudmouth jerk, or the white man as the bigoted dolt. But tell me, when was the last time you told a women how you really felt? When is the last time you stood up to your wife and disagreed with her, or have you been reduced to silence because you don't want to hurt her feelings? Is that her fault or yours? Do you complain or stay quiet when your wife takes another selfie, posts on Instagram her latest lo-calorie meal, or spent 4 hours on her iPhone looking at what different things she can do with a mason jar on Pinterest? Do you keep buying closets full of princess dresses and dolls and Frozen paraphernalia because your little girl blinks her big brown eyes? That lack of self control is on you bro! When was the last time you had the guts to tell your 18 year old daughter considering the military that she isn't as strong as 90% of the boys in her grade, or pointed out how silly it is when women try to prove they can be just as intimidating on the front lines in combat as the men in her platoon? (See the silly comments by the winner of the Miss U.S.A. Beauty Pageant). You won't say those things because you don't want to be labeled as a chauvinist. Is that the woman's fault, or yours? You are scared to tell the truth. You are afraid to point out that Hilary is only able to make it as a candidate because she is a women. It is your fault for letting your wife's emotions make you cancel your plans to go camping with your son so you help her do laundry on Saturday. Don't blame women, blame yourself. Eve may have eaten the apple first, but God still blamed Adam...he didn't have the guts to tell her no. Why do so many of our daughters swoon for Justin Bieber? Milk toast dads let them. Why are boys overweight and lazy? Dads don't push them. See, men are to blame. I would even say feminism is mostly a reaction against absent fathers and selfish tyrannical dads. I will take it one step farther - - I believe homosexuality often is born from the lack of male attention when boys are growing up. (Or a perverted uncle who has been left unchecked out in the barn.) Again, it is the man's fault. You want to stop date rape? Dads need to teach daughters that drinking parties are not wise choices because they are infested with brutal drunk men who are not there simply for deep conversation. They also need to tell their daughters that wearing barely any clothing to a party is not smart, it just isn't. If a daughter is drawn to drunken men it often is a tell-tale sign that the dad they know is probably a lust driven fool himself? Fathers have the sole responsibility to teach sons that drunkenness is not manly, and treating drunk women as their helpless prey is Satanic, it is the height of wickedness, and it is the poison of a twisted shrunken soul. Frat boy foolishness is often the outgrowth of fatherly failure. Don't you see? It all starts from men. God first loved us...so likewise, dads should follow suit, and love, love, love. I am by no means downplaying the role of moms...but I do think moms are dying for a man to follow. The only reason a feminist will resist that last statement is because they have never been led by a truly loving man. I feel sorry for feminists, transgenders, orphans and casualties of divorce - - the greatest gift a child could receive is to be under the training and protection of of fierce man who fully loves you. (And we need to not let women like Beyoncé ruin the word 'fierce", she isn't fierce, she is insecure). All of this feminist and progressive angst and anger against men is born from an unfulfilled longing, the hope of having a godly father deferred. So can a woman be a villain? Sure, but mature men can handle it. Confident men are not threatened or worried - - they have nothing to prove. My dad loved baiting my sister, while at the dinner table he would look at me and say, "Chris, you need to cut the lawn, and remember, only us men can handle the hard work so you better do a good job." My sister Steph would stand up, and say, "I can do anything Chris can do. I am not a weak girl!" So she would run out the front door and the next thing I know she would be revving up the mower and for the next two hours she would be out cutting the lawn. My dad would look at me and say, "See, it works every time." He loved my sister, and she loved him; but somehow our world made her feel like she needed to compete to be someone of worth. She didn't. We were best friends, and after she was done cutting the lawn my dad would compliment her on her good work. Often remarking, "Steph, you know I was just kidding. I know you can do it, and don't let any man tell you different." I think the real villain is the woman who is duped; the one who really believes she needs to compete to be complete. I always wonder, "Did she ever feel loved by her dad?" Probably not. See, men really are to blame.
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Shelly
6/9/2016 10:44:21 am
AMEN!!! Your comment that most women are just wanting a man to lead them is at the root of it all. I have always loved the song Lead Me, by Sanctus Real. The first time I heard it I cried. Why do most men not realize a woman's primary fulfillment stems from spiritual/emotional needs being met?
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Chris
6/9/2016 10:56:12 am
Great comments....I am not sure what happened to the desire of men to lead? It is sad.
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7/5/2016 02:22:26 pm
Interesting! If it were possible, it may be also these girls that as a child were deprived of an intact father. May also be the women of today whose only goal is to satisfy themselves at the expense of others. And have never matured into the Ladies God intended them to be.
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