Summer is over and I am not happy about it. Just when I was getting use to doing nothing this nasty thing called work came sneaking in on me again. Who decided that it was mandatory that we had to pay our bills in the first place? If it wasn't for all those people demanding payments I probably wouldn't even need to work? Why can't food just be free? Go to the grocery store and eat all I want to my heart's content? But noooo, the mean ole' store manager demands payment. What a bummer. Most parents I know have experienced that terrible moment when you buy a big red balloon for your child and then they drop it on a sharp object and it pops! "Waahhhhhh, Mommy, my balloon popped! Buy me another one!" They really believed that thin plastic object on a string would last forever. Their little minds wanted something they couldn't have, an everlasting indestructible balloon, but then the sharp point of reality hits it. Pop! So they cry, and demand reparations from mom and dad. So do all of us when life doesn't turn out the way we want. When our dream pops, someone needs to pay. It is always somebody's fault. And so the Blame Game begins. Here is how it is played: (1) You Want Something that you Can Never Really Have Somehow we have been taught to expect things that are a pipe dream. It's called delusional thinking: Here are some things people really believe.... * Your son's football team will never lose a game, every major college will recruit him, he will go to the NFL and become a Hall-of-Fame player and no one will notice he still could barely bench-press a broomstick. * Your husband will never argue, always love your cooking, want to watch every rom-com ever made and will never have a big belly. * Your car will run forever without needing to change the oil, replace the fuel pump and will never get a dent, scratch or rust. * I will always feel like I did when I was 18 (2) Reality Hits and You are Shocked Each scenario is like a floating balloon, you believed a lie that was bound to pop. But adults don't usually cry when this happens, they blame. (3) You Blame People Who Have Nothing to do with your Problem Someone always needs to pay: Rotten coaches failed your son, lazy husband is not a leader in the home, stupid mechanics trying to make money off you, dumb doctors don't know how to ever get it right. The truth is our world is broken. Because Adam and Eve sinned, the curse is real. People will die, you will get old, thorns and thistles will make work hard. And yes, you will have to pay for your food. A simple key to a happy life: Don't be delusional, and stop the Blame Game. When you do, people might start liking you again.
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